How to Use EQ to Lower Workplace Anxiety

Watch this short video of Dr. Martyn Newman on how to use EQ to reduce workplace anxiety

How to Use EQ to Reduce Workplace Stress



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DCP at the EQ Summit 2012

DCP at the EQ Summit

DCP at the EQ Sumitt in London

DCP at the EQ Sumit in London

As sponsors of the 2012  EQ Summit we are delighted by the overall success of the day.  And, if you’ve been following our most recent blogs you will already have a general understanding of emotional intelligence – what exactly it means; what the fundamental components are; what value it can bring to organisations.

The EQ Summit in London offered a great forum for speakers to promulgate this message and showcase how they have used EQ as a methodology in organizations with great results. In particular, we heard from RocheMartin about their ECR (Emotional Capital Report), an assessment we also use with many of our clients. This ECR is a well developed EQ tool used in organisations to provide a basis for assessment, development, and coaching.

L-R Agneta Stranberg, Dr Paul Ekman, Judy Purse, Jody Bijary, Andrew Humphries

L-R Agneta Stranberg, Dr Paul Ekman, Judy Purse, Jody Bijary, Andrew Humphries, Dr Maryn Newman (standing at podium)

 

Without doubt, the highlight of the day was  the captivating, and informative talk given by eminent psychologist Dr Paul Ekman, whose work on micro-expressions and human emotions earned him a place in TIME Magazines Top 100 most influential people of 2009. After watching Ekman captivate the 400 person audience from a sitting position, it is easy to see how he gained this award in 2009.

To give you a feel of Dr Paul Ekman’s expertise and passion on this topic, please see the below video clip.

Dr Paul Ekman discusses Empathy

 

EQ Summit – 9th March

Blogs on the recent EQ Summit

Here are two excellent blogs on the recent EQ Summit in London

Thinking about Learning

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Strategic HCM

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Positive Intelligence

Positive Intelligence

Research shows that when people work with a positive mind set their performance on nearly every level – productivity, creativity, engagement improves. People who cultivate a positive mind-set perform better in the face of challenge. For companies, happy employees mean better bottom-line results.

Happiness is the most misunderstood driver of performance, and whilst most people believe that success precedes happiness, happiness resulting from success is in fact fleeting.  Success is a moving target- as soon as you hit your target, you raise it again. Our general sense of well-being is surprisingly malleable. The habits we cultivate, our coworker interactions, and how we think about stress can all be managed to increase happiness.


Three ways individuals can cultivate their own sense of well being

Develop new habits. Recent research on neuroplasticity- the ability of the brain to change even into adulthood-reveals that as you develop new habits, you rewire the brain. Engage in one brief positive exercise every day for as little as three weeks.

Help your co-workers Many studies have found strong social support to be the greatest predictor of happiness during periods of high stress

Change your relationship with Stress. Stress is another factor contributing to people’s happiness at work.  Stress has an upside. Stress is not just an obstacle to growth; it can be the fuel for it. Your attitude toward stress can dramatically change how it affects you.

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Social Skill

Social Skill

The first three components of emotional intelligence are self management skills. The last two, empathy and social skill, concern a person’s ability to manage relationships with others. As a component of emotional intelligence, social skill is not just a matter of friendliness, although people with high levels of social skill are rarely mean spirited. Social skill is friendliness with a purpose: moving people in the direction you desire.

Socially skilled people tend to have a wide circle of acquaintances, and are able to find common ground/build rapport with many groups of people. Such people have a network in place when the time for action comes.

Social skill is the culmination of emotional intelligence. People tend to be very effective at managing relationships when they can understand and control their own emotions and can empathize with the feelings of others. Even motivation contributes to social skill – people who are driven to achieve tend to be optimistic, even in the face of setbacks or failure. When people are upbeat, their “glow” is cast upon conversations and other social encounters.

Socially skilled people, are adept at managing teams; they are expert persuaders – a manifestation of self-awareness, self regulation, and empathy combined. Given those skills, good persuaders know when to make an emotional plea, for instance, and when an appeal to reason will work better.

Social skills allows leaders to put their emotional intelligence to work.

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Emotions Make the World Go Round

Emotions Make the World go Round by Paul Ekman

Emotions determine the quality of our lives. They occur in every relationship we care about – the workplace, friendships, with family members, and in our intimate relationships. Emotions can, and often do begin very quickly. Our conscious self usually does not participate in or even witness what in our mind triggers an emotion at any particular moment. That speed can save our lives in an emergency, but it can also ruin our lives when we overreact. We don’t have much control or choice over what we become emotional about, but it is possible, though not easy, to make some changes in what triggers emotions and how we behave when we are emotional.

These words are from the introduction to my book Emotions Revealed, published after nearly 50 years of research. We knew very little about the nature of emotion when I began my research career. Unfortunately, much of what we have learned is still unknown by the general public, the professions or business community. We now know, but we didn’t know then, that seven emotions have a universal facial expression and vocal signal. Upbringing influences how and when and what triggers an emotion, but part of that is universal too. Ingrained habits, mostly learned early in life, operate automatically to manage emotional signals. We have found out a lot about, not just the emotion signals but the very nature of emotion, and what we have discovered can now be learned and used by others to obtain the emotional skills that my friend Danny Goleman hoped for when he wrote Emotional Intelligence in 1995 bringing this topic to public attention. It was the many requests from people who read Danny’s book and wanted to learn the skills he wrote about that stimulated me to translate my research into online training tools and workshops aimed at the business world as well as the law enforcement-national security community.

More information on these workshops as well as an opportunity to ‘test-drive’ the online tools will be available by the Paul Ekman Group at the 2012 Leadership & Emotional Intelligence Summit (www.eqsummit.com) to be held in London on March 9th in partnership with HR Magazine. Changing what we become emotional about and how we behave when we are emotional is harder to learn but that too is possible. Research by my colleague Martyn Newman at RocheMartin and our own work at Paul Ekman International and the Cultivation Emotional Balance program have demonstrated this convincingly. Our emotional world is about to change; we have not only the knowledge but the tools to have more constructive emotional engagements, more appropriate to the world we live in.

Paul Ekman is a psychologist and global pioneer in understanding emotions – named by Time Magazine as one of the Top 100 Most Influential People. He along with Martyn Newman, consulting psychologist and recognised international expert in emotional intelligence and leadership, will be headline presenters at the 2012 Leadership & Emotional Intelligence Summit in London on 9 March

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Empathy

Empathy

Empathy is the most easily recognized dimension of emotional intelligence. It is the ability to understand the emotional makeup of other people. For a leader, empathy means thoughtfully considering other employees feelings in the process of making intelligent decisions (among other factors). Goleman notes that there are three types of empathy:

  • Cognitive Empathy– This involves understanding how the other people think, and expressing things in a way that impact on people.
  • Emotional Empathy-This is an unconscious ability, and ” is about feeling with…it has to do with a brain system called mirror nuerons which tune into the person we’re with and activate in our brain what they’re feeling, what they’re doing, what they’re intending”
  • Empathatic Concern– Leaders who possess this actually care and facilitate  their employees to be the best they can be.

 

Empathy is a particularly important component of leadership today. Why?

Increasing use of teams– Empathy allows leaders to understand a team’s emotional makeup. In teams a team leader must be able to sense and understand everyones’ viewpoints. They will listen to everyone in the group – what frustrates them, how they rate their colleagues, and whether they felt they had been ignored. Leaders must be able to direct the team in a way that brings them together, hence encouraging people to speak more openly about their frustrations, raise complaints during meetings.

Globalisation- Cross Cultural dialogue can easily lead to misunderstandings, and miscues. Leaders who have empathy are more attuned to subtleties’ in body language and can hear the message behind the words being spoken. Beyond that they have a deep understanding of both the existence and the importance of cultural and ethnic differences

Retention of talent- Leaders need empathy to develop and keep good people – when good people leave they take the company knowledge with them.

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The Importance of One to One Meetings

The Importance of One to One Meetings

 

One-on-one meetings allow managers to make real connections with individual team members. These meetings allow managers to connect individually, and provide an opportunity to build rapport, gauge morale, identify potential burnout, talk through key issues. One-on-one discussions are mutually beneficial and can be a great forum for managers to ask probing questions. They facilitate feedback on any potential initiatives, allowing managers to build consensus on strategies that potentially require additional handling and/or positioning to gain consensus. .

Great 1 on 1s are:

  • Regularly scheduled, and scheduled in advanced
  • Rarely missed
  • Primary focus on the team member
  • Notes and Follow up is critical

Most managers will hold one on one meetings monthly with each team member, ad will allocate: – 10 minutes for the individual to discuss matters – 10minutes for you and – 10 minutes for career/growth/development/any other business

Some Questions to Bear in Mind

What do I need to communicate? What behavior of theirs am I focusing on? What projects or work am I/they involved in?What organizational issues/news/efforts can I share? What meetings have I just attended – what did I learn? What are the common items I need to get out to everyone –about schedules/projects/ workload or our team? What positive Feedback can I give? What developmental feedback am I going to give? What project, task or work would be helpful to their development?

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Motivation

Motivation- The Third Component of Emotional Intelligence.

Virtually all effective leaders are driven to achieve beyond expectations –their own and everyone elses. Whilst plenty of people are motivated by external factors, such as big salary or the status that comes from having an impressive title or being part of a prestigious company,  those with leadership potential are motivated by a deeply embedded desire to achieve for the sake of achievement.

How can you identify people motivated by the drive to achieve?

  • Highly motivated people seek out creative challenges, love to learn and take great pride in a job well done. They often display an unflagging energy to do things better. They are persistent with their questions about why things are done one way rather than another; they are eager to explore new approaches to their work
  • They are forever raising the performance bar, during performance reviews people with high levels of motivation might ask to be “stretched” by their superiors. An employee who combines self-awareness with internal motivation will recognize her limits
  • Highly motivated people will keep score by tracking such hard measures as profitability or profit share.
  • People with high motivation remain optimistic even when the score is against them. In such cases, self regulation combines with achievement motivation to overcome

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Self Regulation

Self Regulation -The Second Component of Emotional Intelligence

 

Daniel Goleman goes on to discuss self regulation, which is the component of emotional intelligence that allows us to manage out and channel those emotions, which are driven by biological impulses.

Why does self regulation matter so much for leaders?

• People who are in control of their feelings and impulses–are able to create an environment of trust and fairness. In such an environment, politics and infighting are sharply reduced and productivity is high. Talented people flock to the organization and aren’t tempted to leave. And self-regulation has a trickle down effect.

• Self regulation is important for competitive reasons. Everyone knows that business today is rife with ambiguity and change. People who have mastered their emotions are able to roll with the changes. When a new programme is announced, they don’t just panic; instead they are able to suspend judgement, seek out information, and listen to the executives as they explain the new programme. As the initiative moves forward, these people are able to move with it. Sometimes they even lead the way.

 • Many of the bad things that happen in companies are a function of impulsive behaviour. People rarely plan to exaggerate profits, pad expense accounts, dip into the till, or abuse power for selfish ends. Instead, an opportunity presents itself, and people with low impulse control just say yes.

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