The first three components of emotional intelligence are self management skills. The last two, empathy and social skill, concern a person’s ability to manage relationships with others. As a component of emotional intelligence, social skill is not just a matter of friendliness, although people with high levels of social skill are rarely mean spirited. Social skill is friendliness with a purpose: moving people in the direction you desire.
Socially skilled people tend to have a wide circle of acquaintances, and are able to find common ground/build rapport with many groups of people. Such people have a network in place when the time for action comes.
Social skill is the culmination of emotional intelligence. People tend to be very effective at managing relationships when they can understand and control their own emotions and can empathize with the feelings of others. Even motivation contributes to social skill – people who are driven to achieve tend to be optimistic, even in the face of setbacks or failure. When people are upbeat, their “glow” is cast upon conversations and other social encounters.
Socially skilled people, are adept at managing teams; they are expert persuaders – a manifestation of self-awareness, self regulation, and empathy combined. Given those skills, good persuaders know when to make an emotional plea, for instance, and when an appeal to reason will work better.
Social skills allows leaders to put their emotional intelligence to work.
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